Questions for discussion:
- Do you prefer spending time with your family or at work (studies)? Why so?
- Are friends more important than family? Why so?
- How much time do you spend with your family every week? Would you like to spend more time with your family members?
- Do you get on well with all of your family members? How important is to have good relationships with your relatives?
- Do you have really trustful relations with your parents? Were your relations trustful when you were a child?
- Have you ever quarreled with members of your family? If quarreled, who typically tries to make peace first: you or another person? Why?
- Are there any traditions in your family that strengthen relations between brothers & sisters, parents & children? (for example, to gather together everyday for evening meal, to have big family get-togethers, to go in for sport together, to have common hobbies, etc.)
- Who is the head in your family? Do you agree with the statement that husband is a head of a family or you are for the democracy inside of a family?
- What is the perfect number of children to have in a family?
- What is the most difficult thing when building relationships with wife/husband? With parents? With children?
- When do you need your family most?
- How far back do you know your family tree?
- What is the role of family in modern society? Was it different before? How has it changed?
- How would you describe a typical Russian family?
- How would you describe a perfect family?
SON: "Daddy, may I ask you a question?"
DAD: "Yeah sure, what is it?"
SON: "Daddy, how much do you make an hour?"
DAD: "That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?"
SON: "I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?"
DAD: "If you must know, I make $100 an hour."
SON: "Oh! (With his head down).
SON: "Daddy, may I please borrow $50?"
The father was furious.
DAD: "If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childish behavior."
The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.
The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think:
Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $ 50 and he really didn't ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.
DAD: "Are you asleep, son?"
SON: "No daddy, I'm awake".
DAD: "I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier. It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the $50 you asked for."
The little boy sat straight up, smiling.
SON: "Oh, thank you daddy!"
Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.
DAD: "Why do you want more money if you already have some?"
SON: "Because I didn't have enough, but now I do.
"Daddy, I have $100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you."
The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness. It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $100 worth of your time with someone you love? If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family and friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family.
Some things are more important.